Frequently Asked Questions
What is your approach? What is Hakomi?
Hakomi therapy is unique in two ways. From its inception in the 1970's, it has been using what are now "cutting edge" and "emerging techniques" of mindfulness and the body centered therapy. According to the Hakomi Method, gestures, posture, facial expressions, and other bodily experiences provide information about a person's core material. This core material can be described as a combination of the images, memories, emotions, and beliefs, even those hidden from awareness, determining a person's individual nature and may also serve to place limits on one's individuality and goals. Through this therapy approach, individuals can eventually develop a clearer understanding of this core material and, with compassionate, gentle assistance from professionals trained in Hakomi, examine, challenge, and ultimately transform any self-defeating beliefs.
What purpose does therapy serve?
Therapy can provide a fresh perspective on an issue. It can give people a better understanding of their own emotions. Therapists can teach communication skills to convey those emotions. Therapy can promote one's self-esteem, relationships, and outlook on life.
Healthy living, and the road to healthy living, is paved by the choices we make in each and every moment. The sum of how we eat, how we move, how we sleep, how we manage stress, how much love, meaning, and connection we have in our lives all equal our overall happiness and well-being. Our mental and emotional health is a major factor in our overall happiness, and greatly determines how well and how long we live.
I don’t feel like I have a major problem. Can I still benefit from therapy?
What are your fees?
We have a tendency in our culture to go it alone. "Pulling ourselves up from our bootstraps" is praised and idealized. Having a well developed sense of independence is healthy, yet it often can lead to shying away from asking for help and seeking support . This will have us finding less-effective ways of coping with life's challenges, many of which were never meant to be handled alone. Because this way of going it alone has become normalized in our society, we can have a sense that we're "doing good" and we can easily overlook all the things we are not getting in life that we would like to have.
Getting support in examining one's life, taking inventory of what's working and what could be better, what's longed for and what longings have been abandoned is in it's self a useful endeavor to undergo at every stage in life. This inquiry can have powerful results and can open the door to new possibilities and directions, and bring new vitality to the positive elements already existing in one's life.
Unlike many therapists who offer 45 or 50 minute sessions, when you work with me you get a full 60-minute hour. My rate are $120 per 60-minute session.
Payments are required at the time of each session. I take cash, credit cards, and various forms of online payment. I do not take insurance, and I do have limited availability for a sliding scale reduced fee.
What if I don't want to talk about something?
Any time we turn and take an honest look at ourselves, it can have powerful results.
Courage to look at things that might not be easy to face in oneself and one's life. Paradoxically it is of utmost importance that I honor you and where you are, moment-to-moment in each session. This means me paying close attention to your moment to moment experiencing, and honoring your boundaries and resistances when they arise. We will form a collaborative relationship in which we will stretch a little out of your comfort zone at times, and at other times honoring your boundaries and capacities.
Any skillful therapist will be continually aware of verbal and other cues that are communicating what feels safe and what feels beyond what is comfortable to be shared. I may, at times, guide and encourage you to stretch into moments of fear and uncomfortable-ness. This is done with care and flexibility. It is not about heroically breaking though as much as it is getting care and support in being with your moment to moment experiencing. Being "stretched" in this way will increase your capacity to handle stress and will also allow for old patterns to be dropped. From there you can gain choice in how you act, live, and love.
What's the first step in getting started?
The first step in getting started is to arrange a 20-minute phone or in person intro session where I can learn a little about what has you seeking therapy and explaining to you how I think I may be able to help. It's an important time to get an initial sense of whether working with me might be a good fit for you. To this point, I would suggest paying attention to how you feel right now as you're reading my website, and even notice how you feel in dialing the phone to call. Trust your gut!